Embedded commands involve making suggestions indirectly within a larger statement. By making your voice lower, slower and louder for instance most statements can include an embedded command.
NLP calls this analog marking. Analog communication is delivering a message, without words (digital). This is how animals communicate – with sounds and behavior.
By marking out non-verbally some portion of a communication, the unconscious mind identifies and understands this part differently. It signals, “Pay attention to this bit”.
This marking can be behavioral – a body language gesture or movement or using voice tone, volume, speed etc. For instance,
- “My friend knows how to feel good about herself”- the “feel good” can be emphasized by speaking it slightly louder, slower or faster.
- “There is no need to relax and go into a trance just yet”. “Relax and go into a trance” could be marked with a hand gesture.
- “You can talk to me when you are ready”. “Talk to me” could be marked with body movement.
- “John, sit down and relax” . “Sit down and relax” is marked out as a command.
Difference between a question and a command
Make sure you deliver the command part of the sentence as a command. In language, we understand a rising tone at the end of a sentence as a question. There is a difference between “You are going now?” and “you are going now”.
Have you ever noticed how some people seem as though they are questioning when they don’t mean to? “I’ll get this report done by tonight?” A rising inflection can make someone seem hesitant, as if he is asking permission.
- A question has a rising tone or inflection at the end
- A statement has no inflection at the end
- A command has a falling inflection at the end